2 PANS kids fighting lyme and coinfections, our journey to healing

I took a full-time job…

I never thought in a million years I would be able to work while my son was young.  An obvious need to replenish was held against a desire to not allow him to slip into feeling un-loved or not wanted – again, but here we are just one short year working alongside him to heal his deep-seated trauma and I am back to work.  Now, I work from home so that obviously makes things a little easier for both of them and me! Still, they are respectful of my hours and for the most part understand that I can do this and still love and take care of them, which I do. I was worried, I was expecting a return to the behavior we had seen in the past when an event occurred that he was anxious about, but to his credit, he has handled it like a trooper.  It just goes to show how important it is to talk about healing, rather than medicating, his behavior. Last week I sat down to watch ABCs expose regarding children in foster care and medications. “… Foster children are medicated with psychotropic drugs up to 13 times more than other kids. Michael Piraino, the chief executive of the National CASA Association, a foster children’s advocacy group, said that, as a population, foster children tend to be more troubled than their peers. …” This makes me so crazy and so very sad, of course these kids are troubled, who wouldn’t be?  It seems to me that if we are going to take these kids away from trouble at home, we should have a better place for them to live. They certainly should be treated to mental care, because everything we know now tells us that physical care is just not enough.  Just for one minute imagine how it would be to be living in a troubled home with abusive or negligent parents and then someone swoops in to save you, to take you away and give you a better life.  It seems great on the surface but in “rescuing” this kid, what really happened is that the child was taken away from everything they know, and everyone they love, regardless of how bad that life may have been.  If that’s what and who you know, that is your normal.  They are confused, angry, stressed about what is happening, and worse, what comes next.  To me, as an adult, I get nervous and anxious in new situation, but I have coping skills, I have learnt through experience...

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